This article is base on experience in my relationship journey before I got married.
Long distance relationship is very sweet from the beginning but a little bit hard as it's goes by, if you are not patient enough.
95% of the relationship have been to, started as a long distance relationship.
In starting long distance relationship, you need to build love, especially trust because your mind will always tell you, he or she is cheating. Don't worry, I will tell you how I overcome that ideology that makes my long distance relationship works perfectly, and also the mistakes that destroys some of my long distance relationship.
Long distance relationship is coming into full agreement to love, care and be committed to him or her, even when you are not seeing him or her for months. I still miss some of the ladies I started long distance relationship with, even when I have not seen them. 98% of the ladies i started long distance relationship with, I met them on social media. For men, In my next article, I will teach the tricks on how you will ask a girl to be your girlfriend online without stress and she will love you so much that she will be eager to see you one on one.
What Makes Long Distance Relationship Works.
We find it difficult to understand what makes long distance relationship works, because we have wrong mindset on the person we are dating or getting married to.
If you want to perfectly work out the long distance relationship, you need to build this bridge in your thoughts.
- Him or she loves that's why he or she give me attention. When you have that thought, it will help your distance relationship to work very well. Every Beautiful long distance relationship start with attention and sustainable communication.
- You need to build trust to him or her. Trust is the hardest things to build on but you have to give him or her some high trust. One of the attitude that destroys my long distance relationship is, not trusting her. I always imagining that she's with a guy, cheating on me.
- Always have time for him or her. In a long distance relationship, time counts a lot. Build quality time for him or her. Ad for me, I build more time for her, even if I will be busy all, I will make sure I give little of my time. It will keep him or her strong and focus on you without thinking of conceding another person.
- Communication really help my long distance relationship. I met my wife on Facebook 2009, we became friends then, we communicate on phone almost every day, I sent her offline message, as time goes by we lost contact. Some years later, we get back again. We have not seen each other but through communication, will be able to stay and build the long distance relationship, but today she's my wife. Communication is the key that will Makes Long distance relationship work perfectly.
- I never accuse her of cheating on me, that never come into thought when I started long distance relationship before I marry my wife. My earnest expectations is to see her one on one, spend the rest of my life with. I never accused her in mind, talk more of accusing her on phone. It really help my long distance relationship works.
What Can Make Long Distance Relationship Not To Work.
- Lack of understanding. Understanding became a sin to me when I started long distance relationship. No matter her effort to see that I understand her, I will keep doing things like a kid. When you lack understanding, you will lose him or her gradually without knowing it. The most painful thing is to see the person you love and care so much misunderstand you. It is so painful. It break the person and make him or her to quit the relationship.
- Lack of trust. I never trust any of them, I mean the ladies I started long distance relationship with. I always thought she's cheating on me. If I called her, the call is on call waiting or busy for like 5 to 10 minutes, I will start asking her who called you, if she didn't give me a reasonable answer, it will turn out to become quarrel, and I will not called her for some days. It really scattered the relationship, no basement and sweetness in the relationship because of lack of trust.
- No commitment. In this case, some ladies see commitment or care as a form of financial help. When they ask for money, and you didn't give or maybe you can't afford it at the moment, they will began to act strange to you. Commitment is the process of make sure or trying your best to add value to him or her and welfare. Not only on financial expert but on the future and health wise. For me, I was only committed to see her face and other things without committed to her well-being.
- Jealousness. I became jealous of who called, who she's with, without mind if she's with her parents or siblings. I was growing in jealousness, instead of trust and respect. Everybody is jealous, but over jealousness will not make your long distance relationship work, rather it will break and destroy it. Over jealousness is one of thing that destroy relationship. It brings hatred, instead of love. It will make you to travel to nothing, just to check he or she is doing something wrong. Jealousness causes emotional trauma and risks.
In Conclusion
How long distance relationship will work for both of you should be your priority, not having wrong thought towards him or her.
My long distance relationship works perfectly when I beginning to adjust, and start building myself to separate jealousness, lack of trust, lack of understanding and too many questions in my mind, and start adding more value and respect in my relationship.
I urge, to follow this footsteps listed and you will see how your long distance relationship will work greatly without regret.
NB: When he or she is not putting more value and seriousness in the relationship, please seek counsel from a therapist.
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